Merry go round and round.
For the past few years I haven’t been very social. I knew how to be and I knew I wanted to be more social but I didn’t like the weight I was at (207) and I didn’t like the clothes I had at that weight so I never really wanted to go anywhere. Never really bought clothes either because I was always waiting to lose weight. Anyway, I lost the weight and now I’m becoming more social again. Being social was one of my New Years resolutions too so I tried my best to make it happen. I hooked up with an old friend of mine and I joined a mommy group and we meet for playdates and one day a week we meet up for coffee at night. Correction! It went from coffee to drinks like beer. Even the old friend I hooked up with was supposed to be a book club at first and now has changed to women talk with drinks.
Being social is helping my well being alot. It gives me a reason to “pretty myself up” and vent about family, joke around, whatever. But, now the exercise is slowly slipping away and so is some of the healthy eating. Drinking can lead to eating can lead to being lazy and that leads to skipping the gym.
What a circle! I lost weight so I could feel more comfortable to be social but now being social is causing me to throw everything else out the window. Surely this will cause me to gain weight and then withdraw from people and places again and I’ll be right back too where I was a year ago. This was supposed to be the “Year of Jeanette”! I was going to be more social and healthy and even join a race.
Well, I’m recommitting. It may be a slow kind of start but it’s heading in the right direction. I need balance. Last night I signed up for a race in March. I’m not running it but walking it. It was one of my goals for the New Year so I’m going to complete it. I have to find balance. I will find balance. I had goals for the New Year and I have to remember them. I just can’t pick one goal like being social and just run with that one. I have to make all of them priorities.
Forgive me Buddies for not being on much. I have a son who is a senior in highschool and we are preparing for college choices right now and filling things out and……maybe I’m drinking too much too! Kidding. Have a good week buddies!
I know what you mean with all of that. I think that is how I put alot of this weight back on….I was 50 pounds thinner only a couple of years ago. We can do it WW!
Great job realising there may be a problem before it happens and making the changes needed to not let it happen. Keep up the great work and have a great day.
Oh WW I’ve been there before not wanting to go anywhere. I use to wear really big clothes and my girlfriend said it only makes you look bigger. So glad for buddyslim and all you wonderful inspirational people! And oh not to worry I was in your place last year with Brittany preparing for college its understandable! Miss you though!!!
I understand ,it can be a vicious cycle! Very proud of you for stopping it before it went too far. You can handle it, I know it!
I once lost 100 pounds. Really losing the weight was not hard for me once I committed to it. But after I was at the end of the weight loss and I had reached my goal…I was like now what? How am I suppose to stay here? I think we all sabatage ourselves in many ways. I mean all the diet books in the world can tell you how to lose the weight, but I havent read one that tells me how to deal with the loss pschologically or how to keep the crap off once I get it off. I wish you luck finding the balance to keep your weight off. I guess after I lose the weight this time I am going to go talk to a counselor and try to figure my head out, if that is possible.
Today’s a new day, and we’re here to support you! Get back up on that horse, buddy! You can do this.
Its really hard, you are right its a vicious circle. Eat…drink…get lazy. I can’t imagine you being lazy, but you recognize it CAN happen and you are working on it!!
Its great that you are getting out more, a mommy group sounds like so much fun!! Thats where I made all of my friends when my children were growing up. I cherrished their friendships.
YIKES a senior!!! YIPPEE!! now theres an accomplishment!! but I do know the stress of planning and trying to help this year the best, its one they’ll never forget!!
No apologies needed for not being on BuddySlim often, you have your priorities. Find your balance..stay focused and stay happy! We all love ya and know you can do it!!
It is a vicious cycle if we let it be. I am glad you are committed to being more social though. That is good for the soul and I hope you find that balance you are looking for!
It is a vicious cycle, the world of being social. Glad that you’re standing your ground and making the decision to stay focused on what is important to you.
Come on WW, we know you can do anything. Proud of you for sticking with your resolutions. Just another little problem. You are great at problem solving. We will be working on balance till we take our last breath, if we are wise. Every day is a new chance to find our bliss….and follow it. Congrats on not killing your teenager… now he’s off to college. They improve drastically after that and become our sweet loving children again… hopefully. hang in there. Just another mountain to climb…you’re SUPER at that. Love, Marge
WW - You are a wonderful inspiration to us all. You give me a swift kick in the ass when I need it and I love you dearly for it. You will get back on track just think about how much you have already accomplished, you have done great.
We are here for you and I know you like a cocktail here and there. Try this. Bacardi rum (supposedly there are no carbs) and diet coke. This way you don’t have to worry about packing on the pounds. Guilt free drinking is what I like to call it. Now if you like beer, I can’t help you with that they are all full of sugar and yeast.
Have a great day and thanks for always being their for me.
WW, i hear ya on both sides - the withdrawing and then the challenges of staying on track when socializing. i’m a big fan of exercise-type plans like going for a walk or to th gym or like you are doing, joining a race. as for the drinks, it totally adds up, you could get pregnant like me OR drink vodka and diet tonic, only one of whatever or light beer -Amstel lite is good. Don’t sacrifice all that you’ve worked for, you’re just at a new challenge - how to integrate it all in! reshift, refocus, reschedule and you will make it happen!
Yes, I totally get you on this. I think that’s a big challenge in my life but I’m not willing to give up my socializing to be a gym rat or a salad eater.
I’m still trying to find that balance that I know we can all attain. It’s just about finding what’s right for you. How many days do you have to keep yourself from partying so you can still prepare healthy meals and hit the gym to maintain? I realized I can’t go out 6 nights a week…as fun as it may be. 
Good luck finding your #!!!
I know what you mean about the social thing. I move so much, I don’t really make friends. I think it gets harder to make friends when you get older. I know you will find balance. Hang on to those lady friends, some of us really wish we had that!