No more wasted time
I was watching a re-run of “Oprah, After the Show” today and caught a little piece of her talking about her biggest regret in life. Someone asked her what it was and she said it was that she wasted most of her 30’s worrying about her weight. She said her 30’s were a big blur to her. She worried about food and diet and her size and all that during her 30’s. She said so much time was wasted during that time. She said if she had just tackled her weight once and for all she could have had her mind clear to do other good things in life. And now that she has gotten a hold of that problem is the reason why she can now build the school in Africa and do other things that are important to her.
I guess regardless of how much weight she has gained and lost over the years nothing could have stopped her from doing good and building schools and helping others. But, even Oprah is human and weight can consume her life and hold her back just like the rest of us. And because she tackled her weight issues was she able to clear her mind of that problem and focus on others and now alot of people can benefit from it.
I don’t want to waste the rest of my 30’s worrying about weight either. Feeling down about it and not being able to do the things I want. I hope to keep losing weight and then maintain it for the rest of my 30’s and beyond.
I want to make this clear. When I say I don’t want to worry about it anymore, I don’t mean quit working out and eating right. Far from it. I mean I don’t want to gain weight back and have to start all over again with the depressed moods, the over eating the constant struggles and all that because too many people close to me will feel the effects of that. We can do lots of good no matter what size we are but Oprah showed me that someome with her money and power can still be stopped because of her weight. As for me at least, being overweight and eating the wrong things affected my mood. And not looking good made me not want to go places either. I know that people say you have to love yourself no matter what but for me that wasn’t easy. Sure I could buy new clothes and all that when I was bigger but I still saw the big person in the mirror wearing the big new clothes and how drepressed I would feel seeing the size of the clothes. But, now, I can say I really am loving me again. I look at myself and see a healthier person and not a lazy person. I look at myself and see a strong person and not someone who gives up. When I started this weight loss stuff I didn’t really love myself but I was going to work on that by getting “right” with myself.
Just wanted to share these thoughts. Have a great day!
Loving ourselves first allows us to not only do what we need to do - but it allows us a better platform from which to love others in our lives. Excellent post - thanks for sharing.
That is so very true!
This is a very heart felt post. My life seems to center around my weight and it does affect a lot of things in my life. I’m with you, I don’t want to have to worry about this for the rest of my life. It doesn’t stop me from helping other and animals, but it does stop me from helping myself and that is where my problem has been. Thanks for the blog and you look fantastic in your after pic. Keep up the great work!
You are so right. All that really matters is being happy with ourselves, and oftentimes our weight overshadows and undermines our love and belief that we should have in ourselves. Losing weight makes us feel better about ourselves, but how often do we put things off until we lose the weight? There should be just as much enjoyment in the journey as there is in the destination. I think that we all need to remember that sometimes.
What a thought-provoking piece!
You are doing so great!
I am glad that you love yourself more. That is worth everything. Though we should love ourselves no matter what. God doesn’t make junk!
It will be nice to reach the place where I don’t think about weight loss anymore. To be honest, my focus is more on having healthy behaviors, rather than results.
(Though it is really nice when results come!)
Very true. I think it’s a simultaneous battle. You have to take care of yourself but also love yourself no matter what. I agree that this blog is very thought provoking because it makes me think that each wasted day off plan is not just one day but another day afterward of feeling bad and guilty about myself for not accomplishing what I set out do.
that is so true! when I was at my heaviest I didn’t want to go anywhere.I spend my 20s consumed with my weight. Finally at 31 I have gotten a grip and things have started to get better. I weigh less and my goal is in sight. I’m smarter now about eating and things and it’s second nature. and I have the energy and the good mood to enjoy my life!
good for you! you are an inspiration to so many here..I just joined but I can see it!!
great post. ww, one of my main reasons to lose the weight finally was because i was tired of waisting my 20’s being big and unhealthy. not doing what the other 20 somthings were doing.
This is fantastci, The Big reason I want to finally get this doen, so I can focus on something else.I also know I will keep on working out and eating right the rest of my life, but I want to be able to make a difference in other’s lives, too. Great post!
This is exactly what I meant when I wrote my blog this morning. It’s funny because I hadn’t read your blog yet and I haven’t seen the Oprah show.
I don’t know what comes first, the low self-esteem or the weight-gain. You’re right, it is difficult to see the REAL you when weight issues consume your thoughts and feelings.
As for me, I feel like I have wasted precious time worrying about my weight, but not taking a real resolve and action towards tackling the problem. It’s so hard to lose weight and we get discouraged so easily. It’s not a matter of wanting, we all want the ideal body. It is a matter of commitment and action. It is a matter of putting forth the effort and hard-work, a matter of discipline, a matter of MIND over MATTER.
You have found the key, or one of the many keys, I should say. You surely have inspired me and like I said in one of my previous blogs, I hope that once I reach my goals, I too can inspire someone!
God bless you Wonderwoman!!
What a great attitude! Such a motivation!
Great job!! Good luck with your goal…you’re almost there!
I know EXACTLY what you’re talking about here, and I too will NEVER go back to the way things were with me before. We’ve worked way to hard to go back to that old lifestyle! Not only that though, but we have this new found appreciation of who we are and like it too much to give up.
I am glad to be sharing this journey with you!
I’ve always been overweight! It does make you very inhibited. I skipped pool parties and many other events that I will never get back. Luckily, I have found that while I am still over weight, the 12lbs Ive lost is starting to help that. I’m proud of that lose and it’s given me the confidence boost that I needed. I’m glad that you love yourself again! It’s a big step that everyone needs to climb!
Go Wonder Woman!!!
You are such a great speaker.. I am glad you wrote this blog..
keep up the fantastic work!
Love this. I am going to get mjy act together and stop obsessing as well.
Wow. I can totally relate. When you have a poor self image (regardless of how others see you), you don’t want to do anything and you’re moody. Your mood affects your family and friends. And then nobody’s happy. Like the adage says, if mama ain’t happy, ain’t NOBODY happy. So, you have to fix what you aren’t happy about and move on! You’ve done a fantastic job of that!! You are almost at goal and you look really WONDERful. Keep up the hard work! And thank you for all the inspiration and motivation you have provided for me.
I must have missed this blog! Just found it and this is a blog that so many of us can relate to. I was always so depressed and moody because I didn’t like the person I had let myself become. I never wanted to go anywhere. It was so sad because my hubby and family suffered right along with me. I never want to be that person again. I NEVER WILL! I know you never will either. You have come so very far and I am very proud of you! You really are an success story already! So many people are inspired by you, including myself. Thanks for sharing your thoughts with us. You realy rock woman! I hope you have a great birthday tomorrow or whenver you decide to celebrate it! Don’t forget to have those drinks for me!!!