Givers and Takers

I’m turning 38 in a few months and every year I learn or start realizing more about myself.  I start seeing what really has been going on or what is going on.  I start seeing things for what they are.  Every year I grow a little stronger than the last.  Stronger or hateful?  Or maybe both. 

Sometimes I think people are born a certain way.  Some people are naturally born Takers and some are born Givers.  The Takers can grow up and learn to change or keep being Takers.  Givers can grow up giving and become resentful or they just keep on giving. 

All my life I think I have been a giver.  And I don’t mean money (although I have done that) but with time and emotion.   Alot of friends I have had have been takers.  Want to discuss their problems over and over.  I make time for them even when it effects my normal family life.  They want to take as much from me as they can but run away when I need them to be understanding.  They can make a million mistakes and I forgive and over look but I make one and on comes the guilt they bring me.  This happens to me over and over and I wonder if there is something in me that shows this off to people.  Do I have a big sign on my forehead that says “Easy to take andvantage of”.   Only a close two or three have not been this way but have been partners and are happy for you when this or that comes your way.  But, for many years I have had the Takers in my life and that includes family.  Coming around when things are only needed but they leave as fast as they came.  They want me to chase them.  They feel neglected so they want me to chase.  I’m tired of chasing.  I’m tired of the guilt people can bring on me.  Sick and tired.   I may have been born in such a way that people think I can be taken advantage of but that doesn’t mean I have to live that way. 

If I can beat weightloss, I can beat alot of other things.  And that includes beating the Takers too.  

March of Dimes Walk - Will you sponsor me?

Hello everyone!  I have signed up for another walk on May 10th to benefit the March of Dimes.  Both of my kiddo’s were born premature and are now healthy and strong and I would like to see others have the same opportunity. 

I have never joined anything before that required sponsors so this asking is new to me.  Any amount that you could donate would really be appreciated.  Please visit my donation site to take a look! 

http://www.marchforbabies.org/jeanette_e

 Have a great day Buddies and thanks for reading!

Weight loss has changed me for the better but still a struggle

Hello to all my Buddyslim buddies out there.  There are alot of new faces on the site and that’s great.  To everyone that still remembers me, hello!

Sorry I haven’t been on at all in the last few months.  I lost alot of the weight I wanted to lose and I started to feel better.  I made a New Year’s Resolution to be more social and I’m doing it.  I’ve joined two mommy groups and it seems we are always out doing something.  I’ve made a couple of good connections in those groups and found a couple of friends where we do “girl’s night out” stuff too.  Losing the weight brought me that old confidence I had long ago.  I don’t feel so bad looking for clothes anymore to go to these events either.  If anything, losing weight has helped me keep myself up. 

I’m really writing because I feel like I’m a bad buddy for not being on much anymore but being social with people around me has been good for my soul and good for my mind.  I sometimes border on leaving the site completely because I do feel like this bad buddy.   Not to mention I know no one really wants to hear about a person who weighs 155 complain about their struggle with weight loss.  I’m more in a maintaining stage right now and trying to lose those few pounds that can come from socializing.    Just so you know, if you feel I have not been there for you lately, feel free to delete me from your buddy list.   I just don’t come on that much anymore but I didn’t want to just disappear without an explanation or whatever.   I don’t think I will leave the site completely just yet but so many people still send me boosters and it makes me smile that people still think of me but bad that I’m not doing the same.   

Keep up all the hard work out there.  It was so worth it for me to tackle it all at one time.  Don’t take to long trying to get ahold of your weight loss problems.  Life is too short worrying about how to lose weight when we could just tackle it and then maintain it the best we can.

Merry go round and round.

For the past few years I haven’t been very social.  I knew how to be and I knew I wanted to be more social but I didn’t like the weight I was at (207) and I didn’t like the clothes I had at that weight so I never really wanted to go anywhere.  Never really bought clothes either because I was always waiting to lose weight.  Anyway, I lost the weight and now I’m becoming more social again.  Being social was one of my New Years resolutions too so I tried my best to make it happen.   I hooked up with an old friend of mine and I joined a mommy group and we meet for playdates and one day a week we meet up for coffee at night.  Correction!  It went from coffee to drinks like beer.  Even the old friend I hooked up with was supposed to be a book club at first and now has changed to women talk with drinks.

Being social is helping my well being alot.  It gives me a reason to “pretty myself up” and vent about family, joke around, whatever.  But, now the exercise is slowly slipping away and so is some of the healthy eating.  Drinking can lead to eating can lead to being lazy and that leads to skipping the gym. 

What a circle!  I lost weight so I could feel more comfortable to be social but now being social is causing me to throw everything else out the window.  Surely this will cause me to gain weight and then withdraw from people and places again and I’ll be right back too where I was a year ago.   This was supposed to be the “Year of Jeanette”!  I was going to be more social and healthy and even join a race. 

Well, I’m recommitting.  It may be a slow kind of start but it’s heading in the right direction.   I need balance.  Last night I signed up for a race in March.   I’m not running it but walking it.  It was one of my goals for the New Year so I’m going to complete it.  I have to find balance.  I will find balance.  I had goals for the New Year and I have to remember them.  I just can’t pick one goal like being social and just run with that one.  I have to make all of them priorities. 

Forgive me Buddies for not being on much.  I have a son who is a senior in highschool and we are preparing for college choices right now and filling things out and……maybe I’m drinking too much too!  Kidding.   Have a good week buddies!

Rant - Not weight related. It’s one of those little things that can really tick me off.

My complaint is email.  I’m trying to get some college information for my son from the college he chose to go to and has been accepted to.  I email them and ask 4 specific questions regarding a test he has to take and how he may be exempt from taking parts of the test and how do I go about figuring this out.  I wait about a day and a half for a response and when it came it simply said they needed his school Id#.  Fair enough I suppose.  So I send that and two days  time finally pass and I get a response and it simply says they have no record of his TAKS scores on file.  That’s it.  Doesn’t say if I can fax them, doesn’t say if the school can fax them or who to fax them to or whatever.  I’m trying to be nice on the email but dang it!  He is supposed to take a required test but at the rate this is going he’ll miss the next test date. 

 So my question for the day is “Whatever happened to people going that extra mile to be helpful?”  Heck, it’s not even a mile!  I get letter after letter saying how the school is there to help make the process smooth but it’s just bull crap.  They write these letters but forget to tell their employees!  LOL

Oh by the way, I called the college and they told me they have so many emails and calls that they reply to.  I would think so if they don’t make things clear the first time around.  I anticipate alot of email tag during this process and I hate that crap.  I used to work with people that just replied with one answer emails and so it takes like 4 or 5 emails to get your answer.  I think people do that because they like to see all this email in their box and then complain about how busy they are.  I really believe this.

 Rant over.  Carry on.

Can a woman my age even type this? Can a woman my age think of a better title?

I was sick all last week.   Still feel sick. 

Why can’t I be one of those people who get sick and lose weight.  I get sick and get hungry.  And then the battle is on. 

The scale is moving in the wrong direction.  Again.

A week off of doing practically nothing for my weightloss is now making it difficult to get that exercise feeling again.  But, I know I have to so I will.

 Oh, those words were said again.  “At your age…..”.  I hate those words.   I heard it alot in 2007 and it didn’t take long to hear it again.  I’m 37 and I went to the doctor to get on birth control again and there comes the nurse with “At your age you should really take a low dosage blah blah blah”.   Did she really have to throw in the age part?  Growl.

 Well, it’s early for me this morning so maybe that’s where my mood is coming from.  A person of my age should still be sleeping!   Wouldn’t want my bones to be creeking so early and wake the rest of the family up.

My daughter and a hamburger

Whew, my two year old is really working my patience.   Where’s a burger when you need one?  I guess I could daydream about one.  Picture me with a fake burger in my hands up to my mouth with my mouth wide open.  I mean really wide cause it’s a double meat. 

The scale is moving in the right direction and that’s down!

Ran 3 days this week and walked 2. Watched my food and drank lots of water. We even went college touring yesterday to two places and I kept my food in check while we were on the road! Oh yeah baby!

Weigh in was today and I’m down 3 pounds!  I’m stoked!

Give me a high five and don’t leave me hangin’! 

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Thanks to my Fox Fire Four teammates for support along with our competitors the Fantastic Fours who supported me also!  Oh, and to all my other Buddies out there who read my blogs and send me boosters.  Big thanks!  See?  I’m stoked right?!!!!

It’s my anniversary here on Buddyslim!

A year ago today I got started on my weight loss goals at a starting weight of 207.  Now I’m 152 and last night I ran 4 miles.   

Just so people know it’s not every day that I have all this new found energy.  There are times that I still feel like that lazy 207  that didn’t want to do anything.  It’s still a struggle for me to push myself to the gym.   It’s not like I lost weight and will now run through a field of lillies jumping and singing full of life while music plays in the background.  Nope.  Sometimes I just want to be a couch potato for the day.    But, I’m so better off health wise than a year ago today and I do look a little hotter in some jeans if I do say so myself!  Ha ha!

 Work hard for your goal buddies.  Be faithful to your plans.   See yourself a year from now.

-Wonder Woman

P.S.  Thanks to all my buddies past and present who supported me along the way.  You’ve made it fun.

Well, my scale and I had a huge fight. It was about someone tall and dark.

Well, I cheated on my scale.  I know, I know.  I’m a weight loss slut.  You don’t have to tell me.  We were getting along great until Saturday night and I decided to go out and meet someone else at a dance club. He was tall, dark and pretty cold to the touch. I can’t remember everything about that night but I think his name was Bud something. Let me think (tapping my head as I ponder). Bud Light! That’s his name. I met him and a few of his friends. Well, I don’t want to see him again or his friends for a long while. He made me feel so good though and made me feel like I could be a dancer on Dancing With the Stars! I’m not sure everyone else that was there watching me will agree but who cares.  I was working it!   Anyway, I’m cutting him and his friends out until I reach my goals again. The scale was mad at me but he still let me see a one pound loss. He threw me a bone I guess and I’ll take it. At least he didn’t quit speaking to me all together!

Let’s have a great week Buddyslimmers! Monday is a great place to press the restart button! And heaven’s knows I’ve pressed it time and time again!

See my pictures of me on my date! Someone told me they would pay good money to see them!

Well, the scale and I went on a date as planned to Subway!  (See my last blog if you have any questions).  We got a long great! 

Question though, was it wrong for him to ask me to pay?  He did forget his wallet.

Us in a warm embrace……ah.  We ate fresh and got fresh!

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We make such a cute couple!!!!!

 P.S.  Dawnie pay up!  And you too Buttercup!

I might go on a date! Help me “weigh” my options!

Well Buddies, the scale is being kind to me today. Really kind so I might take it out for lunch as a thank you. Of course we will make it a healthy lunch like Subway. But I have to watch what we talk about or I’ll make it angry and we’ll argue and then the scale will change it’s mind. :shock:

I hope the scale is good to you too Buddies!

-Wonder Woman

P.S. Hopefully fellow Buddyslimmer Tasha doesn’t jinx me. I think her and my scale got a thing going and there out to get me. :roll:

I blame Buddyslimmer Tashadiekan77 for all my weight loss woes

That’s right, our fellow buddyslimmer Tasha is the reason I fall off the wagon now and then.  When she does badly, I do badly.  It’s not planned that way.  I just have a rough time and then I get on Buddyslim and then I see a blog from her with the exact same thing I’m going through so she must be sending me bad karma or something.  Ha ha!   My buddy Tasha is going through a hard time with her weight loss and I thought this might make her crack a smile.  She’s my best bud on her and I gotta rib her now and then. 

But, when I do good baby, it’s all me!!!!   Ha ha!   Anyway, things were a little rough Saturday and Sunday.  We had some tile put in the kitchen so we couldn’t do anything in there.  And even if we could we found out the stove had a gas leak so the gas has been shut off so no cooking is allowed until we get the repair that’s been does inspected.  So, fast food is what’s been killing me.  And I could have made healthier choices but I didn’t. 

See, I’m human so don’t let the super hero name full you.   It’s hard keeping up this Super Hero status.  Ha ha!   Weight loss takes alot of commitment and time and sometimes I seek the easy way out.  Just one or two things that throw us off our regular routines (like my tile work) causes us to throw are health plans out the door.   Another reason I failed this weekend is I wasn’t prepared.  So, I stocked up.  Went to the store and stocked up like a good little squirrel so I’m ready for the new week.  Ready to give it a go. 

I’ll do alright.  As long as Tasha stays away from me!  Maybe I need garlic around my neck or something.  Silver bullet perhaps?…. : :cool: 

3rd day down and I got the runs again…..

Yuck, I know.  But, I mean I’m running!  Today I did 3 miles on the treadmill.  I wanted to quit a couple of times but I kept telling myself that I used to run that amount a couple of months ago so why not try it again and just take it mile by mile.  And I did it in 33 minutes and then walked for 7 to complete 40 minutes of cardio.  I also did 20 minutes of weights which I really don’t enjoy but I know I need it to be healthy so I’ll just deal with it.  My food also went right on track.  Drank more water than yesterday and that’s a plus.

Let’s really try and stay on track fellow Buddyslimmers.  Some of us made new goals for the New Year so let’s try and be faithful to those goals.   We made them for a reason so let’s give it our best effort. 

Have a great healthy weekend!

Day 2 equals another check under the good day column!

Evening buddies, how’s everyone’s plans going?  Mine went well today.  Did 40 minutes of walking and 20 minutes of weights.    Oh, and I stayed right on target with my goals for food today.   Probably could have drank more water but I still have time to get in another bottle.   I really need to use my gift card for Itunes to get new music. 

Tomorrow’s another day buddies!  The weekend is coming and those days can be hard but let’s stay focused with all our goals. 

Have a good Friday everyone!

Day one is over. Put a check mark under the happy face column.

One day down and I’m feeling pretty good about it.  I ate very well and avoided the candy on the counter.  I was thinking of throwing it away but decided not to because I wanted to be stronger than the temptation.  But I suggest most people should throw tempting candy away if you do have those bad urges to eat it and if you are just starting your new health plans (it helped me when I first started early last year that’s for sure).  I also worked out tonight even though it was later in the evening.  I walked / ran for 40 minutes and then did weights for 20 minutes. 

Now, off to read some blogs!  Have a great night and let’s get through Thursday in the healthiest way possible!

Officially started. I am soooo a resolution girl. “The year of Jeanette!”

I made my resolution list late last night and I’m set to do them.   Normally I would have started all my resolutions on New Years but I gave myself a pass because I knew I was going to celebrate New Years Eve with a little drinking and I always need the next day to recover.  However, I did start some things yesterday that weren’t weight related but more personal things.   I’m a list girl.  I love the idea of new starts and making things official. 

At the New Year’s Eve party I must have said more than once that the year 2008 was the year of Jeanette (my real name).  “The Year of Jeanette!”  Ha ha!  So people kept ribbing me the next day that this was the year of Jeanette.   So now I gotta prove it!  With God’s mercy, this can be a wonderful year for me because I have a plan in place and I need to put everything in action and the only person that can stop me is me.   And my list is not just simply losing more weight but it does have alot to do with personal growth and health.

Good luck to everyone out there restarting their plans and making new goals.  I think it’s ok to make new goals for the New Year and make things “official”.  Making resolutions to me shows us we are hopeful for the new year and making it a better year.   Have a great start everyone!

C’mon New Year, I’m ready to take you on. Ask 2007 and you’ll see what I’m talking about!

It’s way late and I should be in bed but I’m doing my nails for the New Year’s Eve party later tonight. 

In a few days I will be celebrating my year anniversary on Buddyslim.  I remember last years New Year’s Eve party that I hosted in my house and my weight was at the heaviest it had ever been.  Of course my New Years Resolution at the time was to lose weight but I kind of just said it in the air, not really believing it myself as I said it.  But, one night I looked online for any free sites out there for weight loss and came by Buddyslim on about my third search.  I loved that it was free (because I can be sooooo cheap!) but I loved it too because of the graphs it had and the couting calories and fat section.  About 2 days after finding this site, I got serious about my weight loss and hit it straight on.  For many many months I did all the right things and it paid off and I can say I am happier now than I was when I was at my heaviest. 

In the last couple of months I have slipped alot and gotten off track but the great thing is that I learned some great habits along that way that have stuck.  I can say that 5-6 days out of the week usually consist of a healthy breakfast and lunch.  Only since the holidays started have things really gotten out of hand because of the convenience of junk food at the malls while shopping or just plain “comfort” foods because of the weather.  But really, it’s because of my bad planning.   But hey, for the majority of the year I did all the right things so if I have slipped these last couple of months, well I earned the slip!  Ha ha!  At least that’s what I’ve been telling myself.  lol.

Overall looking back, I am really proud of the things I accomplished in 2007 in regards to my weight.  I vowed I was going to succeed at losing and I did it.   For those of you who want to know, I worked out 5-6 days a week for at least 30 minutes and I counted calories and fat and kept them at a certain limit.  And believe me when I say I didn’t do all this major exercise for hours and hours because I didn’t.  So if you are worth at the least 30 to 40 minutes of fast walking, you really can achieve alot of success.   Now, what can I accomplish in this New Year?  It’s to be fitter and healthier.   Add in some weights, start a new walking / running program, cut the fats out of my foods. 

To all you new Buddyslimmers out there, show your weight loss goals whose boss.  You are the boss of you and you can do it.  Take small baby steps if you have to but always progress forwards doing more and more as you go.  Have more forward days than backward days.   Heck, have more forward months than anything else because that’s what it will take.   If I could lose weight in a healthy way, so can you.  It won’t happen overnight.  That’s the truth.   You have to get real with that one.  But, it doesn’t have to take forever either before you start seeing results.  If you give it your very best effort and find that one important reason that will help you push forward, you can make a huge dent or difference in your weight within this next year.   Educate yourself too.  Surround yourself with good foods and find out what kind of exercises are needed for you.   If something isn’t working for you, change things up.  If things still aren’t working, be honest with yourself and ask if your doing your plan to the T or half ass.  And I don’t care what your reason is for losing weight.  Mine was for health for my family, but in the back of my mind I really wanted to look great in clothes too and to make the last couple of years I have left being in my 30’s looking better than I was looking before. 

 Let’s all make this this new year “The Year of _________(place your name here)!”   I made 2007 mine, you take 2008!  Deal? 

Happy New Year’s to all of you Buddyslimmers!

Is this a weight loss site or a gain it slowly back site?

Because that’s exactly what I’m doing.  Slowly gaining back.    And here’e the crappy part.  It be ok if I wrote a blog that said “I’m gaining some weight back but no worries.  I’ve been having a great time dining at great places and socializing where great food is available and I had this X amount of cocktails so it was all worth it!  Yay me!”  But, it’s not.  And don’t get me wrong, I’m not really that down about the whole thing entirely because it’s not some huge massive gain.  It’s just a slow and steady move in the wrong direction.  And it’s this weather that just makes me want to eat badly.  I don’t know how you buddies in the northern states survive your diets during this time.  I just want to crawl into my cave until the GroundHog says it’s ok to come out.  :lol: 

Good news though.  I have come into a little money recently and it’s time to treat myself to a whole new make-over.  I’m throwing or giving away every stitch of clothing I have (which isn’t much anymore since nothing fit anymore and I was too cheap to buy much else) and I’m getting my hair done.  The funny thing is when I didn’t have much money I wish I did so I could look nicer.  Now that some has come to me, I feel guilty spending it on me.  Like you can get stuck in rut of wanting to give to everyone else but you still put yourself last.  I was telling my sister this the other night and she said something to me that kinda hit home.  She said “You are still in your 30’s.  Do it now before you are in your 40’s and you’re regretting that you didn’t do it in your 30’s.”  Although it wasn’t really a profound type thing to say, I got it the jist.  And that would be exactly something I would do too in my 40’s.  I’d sit back and regret and then still do nothing about it.  I also told her that I wanted to wait until I lost my regained weight back and she told me not too or I’ll always want to be a little thinner and then I’ll never buy anything.  And she’s right. 

So first things first.  Hair appointment.  I just called the place I like and I’m going in so they can take a look at my hair color and see what needs to be done so they can set a good time for me to get everything I want done.  I want to get my hair done first so that I look and feel good trying on new clothes. 

Thanks for listening Buddies.  Oh, and I’m starting over again.  Monday’s are a great place to start.  I may have gained some but that doesn’t mean I have to keep going in that direction, right?    I hope all of you have a great week and let’s enjoy the holidays, ok?  Have a great week Buddies!  :grin: 

Brad Pitt was at my Christmas Party! Legends of the fall one!

My Christmas party was fun and I felt sexy in my dress. The party was smaller than others I have been to. These kind of parties can be fun because at first everything is really formal but once the DJ starts up, you start seeing everyone get down and party hard. Well, a guy who looked like Brad Pitt from the movie “Lengends of the Fall” was at my table. He was also being called Tarzan. And he was good looking so I couldn’t help but stare now and then but when he spoke it ruined the whole thing. Darn!  He didn’t sound anything like Brad.

Anyway, we didn’t really talk to much to people at first because we were kinda late and everyone had already made their party hook ups I guess. But, I didn’t let that stop me because I love dancing and I got up there and got my groove on. Later in the evening we started making some connections and took the party over to a little bar in Austin I love. Brad Pitt was funny, his date was funny and two other people there were cool too.

Oh, and I probably did drink a little too much but heck, I needed it. Plus, Brad Pitt got better looking the more I drank. If he would have just not talked and ruined the whole dream……..  :razz: 

Note to self - Don’t drink too much at hubby’s Christmas party. :)

Kinda nervous tonight because today is the first day I’m wearing a dress in about 7 years! Never was too comfortable wearing them when I was a teenager because I was too thin. Born that way. Then in my 20’s I wore them often. But, my late 20’s and my 30’s have been a no go. Sometimes these kind of functions make me nervous. Will I be overdressed? Underdressed? Talk too much? Not enough? Drink too much? And if yes on that last one, then it’s a sure bet I’ll talk too much! :mrgreen:

On another note, I could kick myself for not staying on track these last few weeks.  I could have looked fab if I had!  :mad:   But, I’m cool with it.  Sorta.  And I say this with humor and not too much regret or bitterness.  We women are brutal on ourselves sometimes, huh?

Wish me luck!

P.S. I hope all my buddies are doing well. I have been MIA for a little bit but it’s not on purpose. Just kinda been busier than usual. Hang in there everyone struggling! The New Year is coming and what a perfect time to set some new goals!

Thoughts about people struggling with being overweight

I just finished watching a recent episode of Oprah where a group of women and men lost lots and lots of weight. One lost 500 pounds, another 300 pounds and so on and so on and it was all very inspiring and wonderful. The parts of the show that really got me though was hearing the stories of how they felt when they were at their heaviest. The loneliness and sadness that they felt. I guess alot of us can relate in our own way but some of these people were really prisoners in their own home. When I first started to try and lose weight, I felt lonely too. I had family but lonely in another sense maybe. Like lonely in the sense that I caused the weight gain and no one else was gonna swoop in and save me. And here I was complaining about losing 60 pounds and other people had longer roads to go. Funny how some of those people on the show were 300 + pounds and were thrilled to be in the low 200’s. The same low 200’s that I was trying to move out of. And with that I like to ask this question. Isn’t it funny or odd how there is different degrees of what people consider fat? Like some people wouldn’t mind being low 200’s and I wanted out of them. Then I was thrilled to be 150 only to learn that some people come on this site starting at 150 and feeling disgusted that they let themselves get to that weight. And I don’t want to knock anyone out there for how they feel because it’s all true feelings that people feel about their own weight. People can feel fat at 150 and people can feel fat at 180 or 140 or whatever or 200 or more. Our feelings are our feelings. It’s just funny to some degree that one person’s fat is another persons skinny.

But, this is what really really gets me. A woman on the show talked about how she would do her walking in a cemetery because it was quieter there and no one could see her. She said when she had tried walking on the street, someone threw a glass bottle at her and missed. There are people out there that take pleasure in making fun of overweight people. They say that they should stop eating and get moving! And then when someone tries to put that effort in, someone is ready to make fun of them. Someone wants to call them names while they are walking down the street or whatever. I know, I know, some people are just like that. Makes them feel better to put down others. And making fun of people has been going on forever. Someone is always getting picked on at school. And you would think we would all grow up and leave school and all that would end. But, no. It just keeps going. And here people are feeling lonely because of their weight and feeling hopeless and trying to hang in there and just when they find some strength to try and do something about it, someone is ready to bring them down. Geeze, isn’t life hard enough that we don’t need people throwing bottles at other people? Especially for weight? Geeze, talk about not having anything else better to do.

This was all just rambling I suppose. And I don’t want to take away from the fact that the people on the show are winning the battle of weight. It’s just sad to hear that alot of people out there could be feeling lonely and hopeless and the last thing they need is some ass bringing them further down. Hopeless is a very sad and dark place to be. People need compassion. Even the people who haven’t found the strength yet to do something about their weight and may have no interest in doing anything. We have no idea what their past is and where they have come from. I heard once before that when you die, before you can go to heaven, you have to go through a couple of things first. And one of those things is to feel the emotional pain you have caused other people. In some ways, I hope that is true.

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I didn’t want to go to the gym today.

I must have tried to talk myself out of going about 10 times today. But, I did it and I got alot accomplished.

So leave me alone lazy voices in my head.  Scat!  Go on, get!  :twisted:

Struggling? Need some motivation? Look to the past.

Hey Buddyslimmers, I’m throwing a challenge out there for some of you. If you are looking for a little motivation, I want you to step back in time. Look back at your very first blog that you wrote when you joined Buddyslim and remember how you were feeling then. Were you happy to start your plan? Were you down and out? Were you seeking change? Did something trigger you to start? Maybe you can look back and see that person you were when you first joined and see if that helps you get out of a slump.

And if your first blog was just a simple hello, then look to the next one or the one after that to see where you have been. Have you made alot of progress since then? If not, look back and read some over to see what’s going on. See if you notice a pattern. Did you do really well since you started? Good! Now see what you did and how you felt in some of those blogs when you had success and maybe it will help you to keep going.

I just wanted to share what my very first blog was in January:
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I can’t blame my weight on my last pregnancy anymore. I am big and it’s because of my lack of control. I need to get it together. I felt better when I was thinner and I looked better.
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I know, my first blog was pretty dull.  I was pretty down back then and I was new at the blogging thing.  I don’t have all the answers and I don’t claim to either. But I just want to see us all succeed. We have families and friends hoping that we stick around on this earth for as long as we can. Let’s not let them down. Let’s make some new goals for the week and let’s all see a loss! :grin:

P.S. To see your very first blog, click “My Blog” and then “Manage” and do a search by month and just look back. Maybe push “previous blog” at the bottom of the page.

My license picture is of my much older sister. Yeah, that’s right.

So last night I go to the gym (YMCA) and I give the staff my license because I have lost my membership card. I then start setting my daughter up for a Mommy’s Day out thing for some other day. I’m writing out my check to the girl behind the counter and she say’s she needs to see my license. I told her that she (the YMCA) has it. Another different employee gets it and starts looking at it and at me. The other girl say’s “Doesn’t she look great? She has changed alot!” And she looks at me and tells me again “You really look good. You have worked so hard.” Now, my license is awful. My face looks really huge and puffy and I have major chin action going on. I think I weighed more in the picture than when I started Buddyslim. Now, back to the story. The other lady asks me what did I do to lose so much weight and I tell her that I ate right and came to the gym all the time. The first girl (who I would always see) said “She always came. We’d always see her here. She worked hard and it paid off. See, you don’t need surgery to get back in shape”.

People, I was beaming! And I rarely talk to the staff there because #1, they always seem busy anyway and #2, I’m somewhat shy. So it was really wonderful to see someone there noticed!  Someone was a witness to my hard work!  I walked yesterday with a little more umph in my step.

I’m telling you buddies, if you work out the majority of the week and you put some good intensity in it and you do it often whether it’s a bad day, good day or extra busy day, the days will pass and before you know it, you are closer and closer to your goal.

Have a good one buddies!

By the time you reach 35, your body blah blah blah

Ah, to be in my 20’s again. I hate (maybe hate is too strong of a word) when I read something about health and it starts off by saying “By age 35, your bones stop doing this” or “By age 35 you need to start taking in more of this”. :roll: I’m at that age that I should be something? I didn’t even know I was supposed to be doing anything at 35! ha ha!

I thought 40 sounded good to start looking into those things but I’m a day late and a dollar short. I remember this happening too when I was pregnant couple of years ago. I thought I would have a baby with no problems because of my age. Then, there is was in black and white. “By age 35 your pregnancy runs the risk of….” Boy I hate that. But in a funny way.

Anyway, my plan is going good so far. I made it 3 days to the gym and will be going today also. Concentrating on walking and some strength training. I’ve been eating right and taking my vitamins. The scale is relecting my work. Feeling good too. Body feels lighter than usual. Had to cut the cokes completely.

Have a healthy day! We are worth it! :grin:

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Trying to stay healthy can be dangerous!

Cough, cough, ack ack!

I almost choked on my multi - vitamin! ha ha!

Careful people, it’s dangerous out there! :lol:

The Wonderful Wizard of Oz! Oh, I mean Dr. Oz. And he’s cute too.

So, I am restarting my plan today. For those of you who don’t know me, I reached my goal weight and now trying to maintain and find a plan that helps me do that without being overwhelming either. I’ve gained 5-7 lbs so I’m trying to get back on track.

Anyway, I went to the book store and bought two books by Dr. Oz and Dr. Roizen. I couldn’t decide which I wanted so I splurged and bought both. One is a body owners manual and the other is ways to stay young. I think they both have the same types of info but I wanted to surround myself with good info. So, I started reading the owners manual one first and I love it so far. The info in there is so simple to follow and it explains very well as to why you have to watch what you eat and how food and the body react to each other and what causes heart attacks and so on and so forth. I’ve stocked up on some good foods and other things the book mentioned and me and the hubby are going to give it our best effort. (hubby had a regain too.) There are different diseases in both our families that I’m surprised we haven’t exploded yet! Kaboom! Just kidding.

Question of the day - Do you ever find yourself thinking a man is handsome simply because he looks like a doctor? When Dr. Oz wears those scrubs he automically gets handsome! Would I think he was cute if he was wearing a fast food uniform? Ha ha! I don’t know. Please, discuss amoungst yourselves. But, not all at once. One at a time, one at a time.

Let’s show that turkey whose boss people!

That turkey is coming in 3 weeks my buddies and he’s bringing all his friends. His date is usually that yummy gravy but I don’t care for her too much. I’ll trip her as she walks through the door and then look away real fast like it wasn’t me. :cool: And then Mr. Turkey always shows up with Ms. Mash Potatoe’s who always wears to much butter. Who does she think she is? A supermodel? :roll: And then Mr. Green Beans always tags along with them but he’s a big fake because sometimes he shows up with some butter too. Go figure something that looks so healthy can be so sneaky. Then the weirdo one of the group is the rolls that show up to the dinner last. It rarely wears the wheat bread look. Mostly the white bread look. The kind that likes to stick around your waist a little too long. I may have to walk by the oven when no one is looking and turn that sucker up and give them a good burning. Whooops! Did I do that? My bad. :lol:

Notice how I said the rolls were the last one at the table and not the pies? That’s because the pies show up early and they like to be the center of attention. More so than the turkey. People love talking about them too. “Ooooh, look at that pie! I can’t wait to get a piece of that!” And if that’s not enough to be center of attention, they want to add whip cream to themelves to just show off. Trying to look sexy I think. Whatever!

Let’s get prepared people and show that dinner whose boss. If you are in a slump, let’s reflect on a new plan so we are very prepared for turkey day. I’m a Monday girl (like to start my diet on a Monday) so I’m going full force that day. No lie. And if you are doing all the right things, then keep it up! Don’t be crazy and stop. Uh, kinda like I did. Ha ha! Well, have a good one Buddies.

P.S. Let’s look better than ever that day too. Let’s show ourselves and our family what we are made of. Let’s look hotter than the turkey!

My costume is of a woman who gained a few pounds.

:grin: And the good thing is I don’t have to spend a dime to look it. Now, let me go down the check list for my costume.

- Jeans a little too tight that when I sit down I have to pull them up over my tummy for comfort. Check!

- One headache from where I quit drinking coke which is making me look a little grumpy. Check!

- Frustrated look in my eyes from me thinking “do you really want to renew your goals on a Wednesday?” Check!

All in all, the costume is coming together!

Well, I’m taking baby steps to get my self back in the game of things. Gained about 7 pounds since reaching goal weight. Now I know that isn’t awhole lot but it’s a trend I want and need to stop. Plus, these 7 pounds feel like 12. I know how the bad food makes me feel. I just have to renew and refresh my goals.   I keep refreshing them though and never really put it into play.   I’m good for about 3 days and then I start slowing down like a turtle.    Maybe that should be my costume!

This isn’t just about me. It’s about my family and how long I want to stick around on this earth for them. It’s about walking a little faster and looking a little hotter. I have a family birthday party in about two weeks and I want to look good. I don’t want to be the person who has gained weight since they last saw me but the one who is looking great. Yeah, I want some jealous eyes on me. My ego needs a boost. Hey, Wonder Woman needs a boost now and then! I can’t always be a super hero 24/7. Paaaleeese. :razz:

Anyone want to restart with me? C’mon. Let’s get it going and get ready for the holidays! Let’s start on Halloween! What could be scary then to restart our diet on a candy day? :lol:

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